self acceptance and safety

Self acceptance is one of the keys to self esteem. This is of course, also part of one's identity and can cause a problem when society does not reflect back to you who you are.  You have been through all the painful discoveries of who you are ( queer or have some kind of disability or illness). I am not lumping these all together because they do not equate with each other in any way what so ever. However, each person in the above category is different from the norm and thus has to accept or reject the truth of their existence.( we are all conditioned to fit in through societal pressure) If you accept it, then you still have to negotiate the problem of society's acceptance of you. And this can be extremely difficult, especially where queerness is illegal or a disability is frowned upon or pitied. Surprisingly,people with disabilities in Russia and Iraq are actually taken care.
So if you have been through the pain of self acceptance, only take that image of yourself outside to society if it is safe. Take care. Check out my website at http://www.inchargelifecoachingonline.com