I used to puzzle over this, I mean how could I be my worst enemy, after all, I was with me all day, and I thought I was my best friend.
Well, the answer to that is, you are your best friend but also your worst enemy.
This would explain why the hardest person to forgive is yourself.
For a start, you have to acknowledge that you've "done yourself wrong" which is pretty weird.
I recently met someone who spent every morning on awakening , in telling herself that she was such a bad person because she hadn't known how she could have stopped her Aunty from losing a particular mattress that had been lent out to someone in the family. The woman concerned would tell herself that she should have known what had happened so she could have saved her Aunty all that angst over the wherabouts of this particular mattress!
Our needless criticism of ourselves could go a long way towards providing peace of mind.
All she really had to do was forgive herself and tell herself that it was okay that she hadn't known, and that it was not her responsibility.
Forgive and move on!
I know this is an absurd story, but don't we get really upset for some stupid reasons? Of course they don't appear so at the time.
Want some help with unravelling yourself?
Email Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com or phone+64221604201
Well, the answer to that is, you are your best friend but also your worst enemy.
This would explain why the hardest person to forgive is yourself.
For a start, you have to acknowledge that you've "done yourself wrong" which is pretty weird.
I recently met someone who spent every morning on awakening , in telling herself that she was such a bad person because she hadn't known how she could have stopped her Aunty from losing a particular mattress that had been lent out to someone in the family. The woman concerned would tell herself that she should have known what had happened so she could have saved her Aunty all that angst over the wherabouts of this particular mattress!
Our needless criticism of ourselves could go a long way towards providing peace of mind.
All she really had to do was forgive herself and tell herself that it was okay that she hadn't known, and that it was not her responsibility.
Forgive and move on!
I know this is an absurd story, but don't we get really upset for some stupid reasons? Of course they don't appear so at the time.
Want some help with unravelling yourself?
Email Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com or phone
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