How to get out of crisis

Do you live your life from crisis to crisis? Is this where you get your excitement from? Is this where you get your certainty from? The fact that you know that as soon as one crisis ends and you've had the high from that, you'll go to the low of another problem until it comes to a head and you'll have another high from that. That is certainty! Wow, talk about having life sorted, meanwhile you persuade yourself that it doesn't matter who gets hurt on the way. After all you're not in control are you, you can't help it and it was so and so's fault anyway.
Is this the way you really want your life to go? Do you really want your life to be such a mess? Are things getting out of hand, (even for you) and you wish someone would help or do you wish they would all go away and leave you alone so you can die.
I know this is really hard to read and it's really confronting talk, but sometimes a challenge could be all you need to start you back on the right track.
You know, there are things that can help, there are real solutions to problems, there are different ways of organising your life, there are changes that can be made that are guaranteed to help, if you really want that.
The question is, do you really want your life of crisis or do you want a peaceful existence where you and your family get the best out of  everything?
If you would like some help with these questions, then be sure to email Ruth at inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com

Is there a skeleton in your closet?

Are you carrying shame because of what was done to you, ( abuse) because of where you came from ( low eco-socionomic background) what you've become ( sexual orientation) or because you're not the white middle class norm that everybody is supposed to be; or because you have a disability, or because you are overweight, or because you're not married or because you can't have any children or because you're not the standard beautiful or because your father suicided or you were raped.
If the answer is yes to any of these questions or situations and a thousand more, then you may well be (and understandibly)  carrying shame. If this is a problem for you.,let me help you deal with it.
Contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com

Consciously live your day

If you want to manifest reality, do so consciously for you are a co-creator. Use your empowerment rather than manipulation and you will get what you want. Love is more powerful than powering over. Your power is your ability to act. Ask for help, ask for whatever strength or courage you need to go forth in your day. Don't go for self pity because that makes you less of who you are. The idea is that your personal growth is about becoming more of who you are. So be conscious my friend.
If you need some help with this, or making choices or overcoming obstacles to your success and your growth please contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com

How to create a good name for your business

so Google SEO gives it a good coverage? Well, for me it seems to be a matter of experimenting. I went in to  the Vistaprint Site Builder for advice on SEO and it said that my website name should be short and reflect what my business does and also have elements of the website name so when people do a search, they will find it.
The name of my business is Incharge Life Coaching so I thought maybe IC Life Coaching or perhaps it could be I See Life Coaching or even I See Life coaching Online as my business is online.
Anyway, check out my website at http://www.inchargelifecoachingonline.com
It is a bit of a mouthful and I would like it to be short sharp and snappy and obviously to the point. Does anyone have any ideas?

In order to desire something or long for something and be able to focus your excitement on that, we have to realise that there is no point in going to all that trouble if your desire is contaminated with stuff that conflicts in your mind with what you want.
For example if I want to grow an apple, then do I plant an acorn? No. And why not? Because the apple idea is pure and obviously not the same as the acorn. If I planted an apple seed and thought I wanted an acorn, I would be very disappointed and vice versa. I must plant a pure apple seed, not a hybrid or I may end up with a pear.
If I plant an apple seed that is not very whole, like there's a bit out of it or it's been a bit eaten or something, would I expect a "good" apple to grow from that? No.
If I plant a row of carrot seeds and when they come up I allow the weeds to grow up between the carrot plants and allow them to smother the carrots will I end up with very good carrots? No.
If I plant the seed of desire for a new car but I think I don't deserve it, then will I end up with a good new car  
or even any car at all? No.
The two thoughts are in conflict and your mind can only accept one at the time. If that thought that says I don't deserve that car has been there for some time, then it is a habit. Old habits which do not serve you need weeding out.
I can help you with that. I've done it myself! Please contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com and I would love to help you.
Thanks for reading this blog.

To create your reality you have to desire it

What does this mean?
It means that you have to long for it, you have to be willing to spend a certain number of seconds, minutes hours of your life focusing on this desire, and not only that, but you have to do it at least once a day, 3 times is best.
So can you commit to this?
Not only is this a commitment to doing it every day at least once, but also you need a commitment to focusing your energy on this desire for up to 3 minutes every time. ( start off a small time and build up)
So is this meditating, well yes it is. It is going to the alpha mind space, so it means relaxing your body, then relaxing your mind, and then you can begin work. Whenever you are in this mental plane you can do your work. If other thoughts about the chicken cooking or is your mate going to ring soon, you need to be able to let them go easily and redirect your thoughts back to the work at hand. You need to let these go easily and relaxedly and then back to focus.
It takes a while to get into it, so allow yourself that time, and make a time when you won't be interrupted, and remember to reward yourself as you do it each day.Hhave a timetable plan, so you can see your progress.
Need help on this? contact Ruth at inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com 

Manifesting your desires

The first understanding about how to manifest your desires, is to know that you are in control, you are in control of your destiny, you are in control of your life. For a long time I didn't understand that - I simply thought that life happened, you know , like shit just happens as is thought by many people. And I was one of them. I thought all those terrible things that happened to me were because life was unfair, and that I really didn't deserve them and that they just happened to me, for no reason at all! In fact, I thought I had nothing to do with them apart from being the recipient of the bad stuff. I mean I was mugged, raped and no not murdered, but I did have to deal with a few things!
I'm not telling you this so you feel sorry for me, but so you know you can change your mind.
I used to think that luck happened to other people as well, you know like those who already had a lot got to have a whole lot more. This speaks to thinking I had no control over my life, in fact, yes I was a fatalist.
Now I am in charge of my own destiny, and I'm a heap happier because of it. I also give back to the community in a way that I would never have dreamed of doing before. After all, I used to think, why should I give something for free? Well now I know that that strategy is part of feeling abundant, and part of feeling intensely grateful for life and its choices.
Why don't you contact me for your first free session at inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com or checkout my website at http://www.inchargelifecoachingonline.com  

How to stay motivated

How to stay motivated affects us all.
Sometimes we just think "Oh it'd just too hard all this effort I have to put in to staying motivated, let alone getting that blog done, getting that plan written, getting that product finalised, getting that self esteem up and running, it's just too hard." And now, to cap it all off, it's too hot or too cold to warrant getting that job done.
Instead of thinking it's too hard, start thinking it's exciting, the unknown of it all, the excitement of it all. Yeah you say, what's there to be excited about? after all, I've been slogging away at this for the last 6 months and nothing has happened yet. Are you sure nothing has changed? Are you sure you are the same person who started this particular journey? Don't you think there has been quite a lot of shifts in your attitude, in the way other people are thinking of you, in what you have been able to achieve? Are you more motivated than you were, ? Have you written your goals and have you written them in step like step form? Do you reward yourself for little achievements? Do you keep thinking that whatever you have chosen for your goal is still what you want? or have the milestones changed the slant on the goal itself?
So remember the excitement you first had about doing?achieving your goal? Do you? remember it? Can you feel it glowing in your being like a firefly? Small but persistent?

Happy Solstice

Happy Solstice everyone! In the Southern Hemisphere, this is Winter Solstice where the it is the shortest day of the year ( calculated to be between 20 and 22nd) , and of course in the Northern Hemisphere it is Summer Solstice, where it is the longest day of the year! Whatever, it's about light and dark in the outside world.
I suggest that it's a good time to look at light and dark for yourself in your inner world.
How much light and positivism, joy, hope, happiness, laughter, sharing, gratitude, openness, peace, trust are you letting into your life?
And how much darkness, how much negativity, hopelessness, despair, sickness, hatred, anger, frustration, guilt, fear, shame do you carry around in your life?
take the time of this Solstice to ask yourself these questions and to answer truthfully.
If you need some help with this, then contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com.
If you mention this blog and tell me what you have done for yourself, you can have some Life Coaching free. 

Inner success

Inner success comes from when you regularly spend time in the Alpha level of your mind. It's when, as Deepak Chopra says, you go to the depths of the river of your mind. At the top is turbulence, all the worries and outer angsts about the outer world, but when you go to the depths of the river of your mind, you find a place of stillness. It is here where you find peace, oneness, wholeness, health, happiness and can influence the positivism of your mind. It is here where you can change your mind, change your habits, change your life.
To get more details on changing your life why don't you email Ruth at inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com ?

hijacking your own creations

Is there such a word as self-hijacking? It is definitely a concept though that is worth thinking about, if you want your dreams to manifest. When you give in to impatience, when you give in to doubt,when you give in to fear of the unknown, fear of the unfamiliar, or fear of success or fear of failure, then you are self sabotaging, or self hijacking. The reason I use this word is that it makes it a whole lot more negative, doesn't it? Doesn't it make you feel like you want to stop that person doing that reprehensible thing?
And that someone is you.
If you found that someone was deliberately putting out energy to stop you achieving what you said you wanted to achieve, wouldn't you stop them, tell them to buzz off and get out of your face?
Well, when that someone is you, you have to do the same thing.
Tell yourself to stop hijacking your potential, tell yourself to stop being negative, to stop being doubtful, impatient, afraid.
Take yourself in hand ( or ask me to help you) and you will achieve your desires.
Of course there are other things that need addressing as well, but this is a good start.
Why don't you contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com .
If you tell me that you have read this post, then I am offering a discount on my services.

Can't see a way out of your present situation?

Are you in an awful stuck space, where nothing seems to be working, where you feel like you've tried everything, where you're starting to feel hopeless. In fact where you've been feeling useless and worthless for ages now, and you don't know what to do? Are you in that space, and you can't talk to friends, because they either don't understand or you don't have any. You can't talk to your partner and you're about to explode with frustration? Or maybe you don't have a partner and no-one seems to notice you or love you for very long. What are you supposed to do?
Well for a start, you have gone online to find this blog and this blog can lead you my website http://www.inchargelifecoachingonline.com where you can see that I have had a lot of experience helping all sorts of people with all sorts of problems, whether emotional, spiritual, psychological or physical. Email me now and take the courage to write me your problem. I can help you overcome any obstacle and feel and be successful in all avenues of your life. I would love to help. First session is free. 

Emotion stored in the body clogs up the system

We've talked about brain drain, we've talked about positive and negative energy, and now we want to look at negative emotion which is stored in various parts of the body until it is released. When a person hangs on to negativity, even if it first came about for a very good reason, or perceived good reason, it has the ability to completely stuff you about. The body remembers.
This negative emotion gets stuck in the body, and Chinese medicine says gets stuck in the organs, including the heart. If you understand this, then you also understand how important it is to release all old negativity, old hurts, old griefs and disappointments, so you can move on and change.
Get rid of that self talk where your brain goes over and over those old hurts and chuck them out.
I would be delighted to help you release this pain, through channeling healing, coaching or both.
Contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com 

How to evaluate Emotion - positive and negative

Emotion is part of the human condition, even for those who don't believe they have any (like someone I know). Emotion has often been considered  the domain of the female. And with that patriarchal perspective, it has been considered wrong or inappropriate for males to acknowledge, let alone experience and admit to feeling or experiencing emotion.
However, I would argue that emotion is part of the human condition whether for female/male heterosexual, or for any of the queer sexual orientations of the world. Emotion and thought go hand in hand.
Negative emotions block a person's ability to succeed, to change and therefore to be happy.
Positive emotions are essential to a person's well being, to success and fulfilment, and of course to contribution to the world.
Positive emotions are also essential to making something manifest in your world. When you want something to happen, you must access your core of desire, you must access your feelings of enthusiasm, energy, success and all good things. You must have a strong positively charged concept of what you want, you must think the desire into your "reality". Try to use all your senses for this end - your sense of smell, colour, sound, taste, connection to oneness. The more you allow yourself to feel the desire, the more you will desire. And the more you desire, the more likely the "reality" you want will manifest. This is what people term "passion".
The more you feel and conceptualise passion, the more it will be, and the more successful you will be, and the more you will be fulfilled. The more fulfilled you are, the more you will contribute to the world, and the more gratitude you will feel/experience. This is a never ending cycle, and it is in your hands.
If you need help in this, please contact me on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com 

Online help with procrastination

Do you really really want to change?
Or are you happy with your lot and think it's just too much effort to change?
Would you rather put up with the familiar old poverty, lack of motivation, being put down, feeling hopeless, and having bad health? At least it is familiar, and you don't have to get used to it. You know it inside out even if it pisses you off. You are afraid of change right? That is nothing to be ashamed of. We have all been there. Who knows who you might have to talk to, who knows what challenges you might have to face, who knows who you might meet.They might know you're inner secrets and that would be so scary because you don't really want to look at them yourself.
You know change is about overcoming inertia, which is a natural state of the body and mind. Even the brain wants to keep things as they are. So you are not the only person that this happens to.
But if you really really want to change then there are things you can do about it. You can take charge of your life, you can be successful, you can be healthy, you can lose weight, you can have a neat relationship.
If you want some help with this, then please contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com

Online help with experiencing and wanting to change pain

There used to be an old adage saying no pain, no gain.This is not true. In order to gain , you don't have to experience pain. I have certainly learnt a lot from both times- from not having any pain, and also from having pain.
But having said that, I want to say again that I have had periods of extreme pain, of the physical and of the emotional/spiritual sort, and I have passed through them and gained. That is, I have learnt from those times. I wouldn't wish them on anyone, but I want you to know it is possible you too can come through - if you have the thought that you desire it.
When you desire something you put something in process , that is change. That is not all that is required, but it's a good start. You do have to have the desire, you have to believe it is possibe and you have to have the expectation of change.
Your pain could have had it's origin in a thought you have about yourself, for example, I am hopeless, I am not worth anything, I am depressed ; it could be from an emotion of pain/hurt/anger that you have carried around with you for years; it could be from a sense of alienation that you have experienced from family or society; it could be from an accident ( which wasn't really an accident).
Whatever the reason, your pain can be intercepted by your brain, by learning to use your brain to change thoughts about yourself, how you fit in to society, how you heal, how you become rational and peaceful in spite of what bones have been thrown to you.
You may not have been able to change what actually happened,but you can change your reaction, your perception of it. That is how I can help you, if you desire it.
Please contact me on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com and I am sure I can help. If you are worried about money for this, don't be. Don't let that stop you contacting me for help. The first session is free and my heartfelt desire is that I help you. That is what I want to give back to the world. Service. Thankyou for noticing, and thankyou for wanting to change.

Emotion is the fuel of change _ Anthony Robbins

Anthony Robbins claims that emotions are the fuel of change. see www.robbinsmadanestraining.com  If a person wants to do something, then it is their desire (emotions) that motivate them, at least in the first instance. If something goes right, they get really excited and it's the excitement that carries them through giving energy to make something else happen that gives  pleasure or happiness or even joy. In other words, emotions breed more emotions at least of the same value, but not necessarily the same quality. So a positive emotion evokes further positive emotions in the same person and can in fact evoke similar positive emotions in others as well. If something goes wrong, then we get upset, disappointed, overwhelmed, or angry and those negative emotions cause more of the same until the person concerned decides to cut them short.
So how is it that emotion can be the fuel of change?
We could see how in the second instance, where something is going wrong, how changing the emotion to positive is the power behind change. This requires a decision to do so and is of course a mental condition. So I would argue that change here comes from a thought + emotion.
In the first instance, of things going right, then it is maintaining the positive emotion that keeps things going in the desired direction. In this case it is maintenance of positivism that keeps fueling change ( or more of the desired action). This too requires the decision to stay with the actions that are producing the required positive results. Here too then, it's thought + emotion.
I would therefore argue that emotions plus thought are a necessary requirement for change.
Thankyou Tony for your great insights and we will be talking more about them in following blogs.

Expectations nearly got me!

I thought someone was buying my car and then they pulled out at the last minute. I was disappointed but only for about one second. The real new owners of the car are just around the corner! Have a good day.

Last night I had a dream

Check out my website to find out what it was about http://www.inchargelifecoachingonline.com
Thanks.

Using someone's energy but not the content

It happened again! I had someone who was interested in buying my car and he kept on ringing and saying he was getting the money together and he'd come round and look and Oh sorry the money hadn't come through yet and it would do by tomorrow and he really wanted to buy the car and Oh the bank is still mucking around and actually could he come to see it today though because the bank said it would be through by this afternoon .... well, eventually, I used the energy of frustration which as you might imagine was fairly high, to go off and do something different with the car for sale.  Rather than feel pissed off with the bloke, or myself, it really was a much better plan to use the energy but not the content.Have you tried it yet? There's no negativity to clean up afterwards and you can get things achieved. By the way, does anyone want to buy a Subaru?