happy new Year everyone

Whether you believe in the new energy coming in now or the Chinese new Year February 8th is in a way immaterial because for someone on this planet on this auspicious day, new things are beginning.
How about no more Complaining, controlling or Cutting Off as a new resolution?
What was yours?
comment below or write to Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com
have a great new Year and blessings to you

Saying goodbye

It's important at the close of the year to say goodbye, to have closure on as many projects as you can, to have relationships healed in as many instances as possible, and most importantly
to learn from your mistakes so you don't have to do them again next year.
Be very very aware as the new energy comes in!
And bon voyage.

What Paulo Coelho says about needing time for oneself.

He says " The warrior needs time for themselves. They use that time for rest, contemplation, meditation, relaxation and reflection.

Little by little everything that once seemed complicated begins to become simple.

Healing or shifting energy can be instantaneous

Healing or shifting energy can be instantaneous!

It is only because we are conditioned to believe that healing takes a long time that it always does - take a long time.

Remember we have been believing this about energy shifting or healing from ever since we first heard of the words. 

And remember that power is in the NOW.

Go to it and have fun.

Another quote from Paulo Coelho

The warrior of light is now waking from their dream.

This is you by the way that he's talking about.

You think "I do not know how to deal with this light that is making me grow." 

However the light does not disappear.

The warrior thinks "Changes must be made that I do not feel like making."

The light remains, because 'feel' is a word full of traps.

Then the eyes and heart of the warrior begin to grow accustomed to the light. 

It no longer frightens them and they finally accept their own Legend, even if this means running risks.

The warrior has been asleep for a long time. 

It is only natural that you should wake up very gradually.

Isn't that amazing stuff?

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Paulo Coelho's quote about inner growth

Paulo Coelho's quote about inner growth for the warrior of light.

They pay attention to the things they do automatically, such as breathing, blinking or noticing things around. They do this when they feel confused, and in this way free themselves from tensions and allow their intuition to work more freely, without interference from desires and fears.

Certain problems that appeared insoluble are resolved, certain sorrows vanish naturally. 

They use this technique whenever faced with a difficult situation.

believe in yourself

Believe in yourself and believe in your dreams.

Really believe in who you are and what you want and

have a great Xmas!

A small trick I heard last night

A small trick to move on unwanted thaoughts

is to simply click on the delete button. After all, you are a bit like a computer (only better) and your programs that have been installed about lack of abundance, not good enough as the two biggies for most people, are only that, programs.

So if you imagine your subconscious mind as storing a variety of programs, you can then select the appropriate ones and delete. Equally you can select the programs you want to become your dominant thoughts and double click and enlarge and lighten.

Thanks to Richard Luck for sharing his ideas.

Old dogs learn new tricks

Old dogs learn new tricks - it'sa a cinch if you know how - according to David Robson (New Scientist)

David Robson itemizes 3 points that make an adult learner as good as (and sometimes better than) a child learner.

He says ideas do get fossilised over time, and its actually the adults lifestyle that may be the biggest obstacle to learning. And this includes their perfectionism.

To counteract that

when the adult 1) keeps fit

                       2) uses that spare time to learn something rather than blob in front of TV or dream off when                               waiting at the bus stop

                        3) throw yourself into a task rather than agonising over all the details 

                        4) use a carousel approach by rotating through different skills you need rather than                                             practising endlessly over one small component of the task

QU: You may ask why this is all relevant here? 

ANS: You are learning a new you, so you need new ways of dealing with new skills.

a good idea to keep grounded

A good idea to keep grounded aka to keep connected, is to boost your memory.

Because what you're really trying to do is remember who you really are (or are becoming).

Remember that you have made a decision to yourself and the universe to get better and better at whatever it is you have chosen to do; remember that you have decided that gratitude and forgiveness are a good choice; remember that you have the support of the universe to do so.

Take care and go for it!

Check out these inspiring quotes from the esteemed Bob Proctor

http://mindvalleyacademy.com/featured/bob-proctor-quotes

More on how to live the laws of the universe

Live them! The best and simplest way is to align yourself to the Life Force every moment you have to think about it. So in between your jobs, your interactions with family, your interactions with the daily stuff of living - know you are connected. Acknowledge it and feel the difference!
I don't mean just say to yourself - oh yeah man! I'm connected lol!
I mean breathe in that connection and recognise your part in that relationship, feel yourself fill with energy and safety and security like no other you've ever felt before!
try it and see...

More on how to use these laws in your everyday life

If you have pain in your body, the old way is to experience the pain and perceive it as negative and a pain in the bum or wherever!
A new way, using the law of attraction(and associates) could be to experience the pain, love it and to actually send love to that part of the body where you are experiencing it! Sounds pretty weird I know, but try it before you think too cynically of this idea.
You are then using the law of attraction to bring more love (and healing) into this part of your body because the love you focus on your body will attract more of the same.
It is law!

How not to slip back into old habits

How not to slip back into old habits means being totally aware of everything you do, say and think.

It's a continuous adventure. You know, things come up in your life where you've habitually reacted in a certain way. But now you know the laws, you can become the Observer of yourself and for yourself. You will remember that you always have a choice, and the choice is a conscious one. Do you want to react in the old way, or did you make a decision to change? Do you want to stay with that decision or couldn't you be bothered? If the answer is you couldn't be bothered, then you will remain the same as you were before you made that decision and all that hard work.

Is that what you want?

It really is continuous work. 

No successful person grew that way from the beginning. They all had to work at it. 

But I tell you, it's fun catching yourself out, after you've given up not forgiving yourself for not being perfect!  

So now you know it all

Now you know it all intellectually how do you put all these laws into practice?

Well, you have to become aware of what you're doing.!

I have a friend who was telling me that she was particularly thinking about the law of attraction and how in the past she had always thought that there wasn't enough! Sound familiar?
She started to become aware of her thoughts and realised that even in small things she had often thought there wasn't enough - or that there was a lack. When she put the washing out and went to the cupboard to get  free coat hangers to hang the shirts, she found that she often thought there weren't enough hangers for the shirts!! silly little things like that. She took the hangers for the shirts and found to her surprise that were plenty of hangers, in fact more than enough Or she thought "oh there's not enough time to do everything this morning so I'm going to have to rush etc" But of course there is always plenty of time for everything..
WOW when she realsied what she was projecting to the world, she put a stop to it.
How about you?
Email me and let me know how you get on at inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com or make a comment below.
Thanks!

The Law of Obedience according to Bob Proctor

The law of obedience is about following the laws.

This law is the one I balked at most! because of the name and because I'm not a very obedient person. However, I now know Bob's correct.
What this law is saying is, that the more precisely you adhere to the laws of the universe, the more precisely will be the success that you want.
 Bob says we've been programmed to be good little go getters but the law of sacrifice clearly says give and then you'll receive. don't hang on to things!
So we need to look at what society says and see if you agree or not.
He gives an example of compliance - we use nature's seasonal laws to grow X in X season not in Y season and so on to produce maximum growth. The same is true of our lives - plant the seeds of success you want in the richest soil possible, and your life will be success.
Bob says you must understand all these laws in order to live in harmony (obedience) with the natural order.
How do you go on that?

Law of Sacrifice according to Bob Proctor

The law of sacrifice is about letting go something of lesser value to you to welcome in something of higher value.

For example if you don't sacrifice your grumpiness for a friendship or partnership, thern in effect you will be sacrificing your friendship(or partnership). Something has to be sacrificed or let go of in order to create the vacuum for something else to come in.

people everywhere are awakening to the necessity of disciplining their thoughts. We train animals, harness the forces of nature to work for us, yet we can't control our minds and emotions (particularly).

We have to work on our mind control daily, our self talk, our emotions to make the new part of our controlling paradigm. We have to consciously choose it and patiently persist. Acknowledging we aren't all angels, but we're focusing on where we're going.

Bob Proctor reckons if it doesn't get better, then it'll get worse.

I know he's absolutely right. Thankyou Bob!

 

Law of supply according to Bob Proctor

The law of supply says there is an infinite supply of everything you desire.

Knowledge, money, success, health, energy, abundance is 100% present in every place silmultaneously. 

Desire is the force that triggers that infinite supply. It is there everpresent from the Life Force. It makes no distinction about what or who you are or aren't.

The problem as Bob sees it, is that we don't really believe that the Life force is the source of all.

Everything ( which is energy) is constantly changing. 

He says that as long as you plant seeds of lack, that's what you will attract. When you don't consider that there is plenty,in other words, then you are also going to have lack. When you hold seeds of lack then that's what your order to the Life Force is.....lack. As you think, so you attract.

What is your order to the Life Force?

As long as you live with your sensory faculties telling you what and how to respond, you'll have struggle.

Open your eyes and see that there is no lack and no limitation, only supply. 

Contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com for further info or leave a comment.

Thanks!

The law of Increase according to Bob Proctor

The law of increase is exactly that - whatever you praise, increases.

So when you praise the good that increases, but equally when you praise the bad, that also increases. What does this mean? It means that when you criticise something or someone, that that attribute tends to increase, and when you heap praise on someone that too brings more of the same. When you send loving energy & praise to a flower, they have longer life; when you praise your Source of ssupply, the Life Force, that quickens.

Try it and you can feel it, because what it does is to change your perceptions, and that in turn changes your vibrations and then your behaviour, and then your life!

Contact Ruth Tidemann on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com if you need support.

Read about the joyous, peaceful, forgiving Nelson Mandela

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/12/06/nelson-mandela-inspired-others_n_4396247.html?ir=Black%20Voices&utm_campaign=120613&utm_medium=email&utm_source=Alert-black-voices&utm_content=Title

The law of non-resistance according to Bob Proctor

The law of non-resistance basically says that what you resist, persists!

Bob Proctor reckons we are programmed to resist resistance. When someone yells at us we have been told to yell right back. Try letting them yell, let it wash over you, but not into you. Whenever you react, whatever is causing you to react, wins and you lose. When you learn to respond, you win.

Reacting is a habit and responding is thinking. So guess which one Bob Proctor would have us do?

Yes you're right, respond.

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Thankyou to Mandela

Thankyou to Nelson Mandela for the wonderful gifts he gave humanity.

May he rest in peace and fulfilment.

The law of Thinking according to Bob Proctor

The law of thinking is knowing that thought as an actual force as real as electricity, heat, light, water or stone.

technically thought is just electrical impulese so technically thought as as fast as the speed of light. To comprehend takes longer unless it's that AHA moment when it can be instantaneous.

The thoughts you repeatedly think become fixed in the subconscious mind and those thoughts determine what will happen in your life.There is only one power, but it rightly or wrongly used. We have been taught to believe that we hang on to the good and do away with the bad. Bob Proctor says this is not true and that they are simply opposing sides of the same coin. he goes on to explain that heat is the absence of light, cold the absence of heat and so on.

If you want to change your results in your life, then change your mind, your thoughts.

The law of success according to Bob Proctor

The law of success is about taking care of our thoughts.

It's about mastering your mind, controlling your thoughts and emotions so that they don't control you.

Because the brain is an electro-magnetic controlling station, it contros the vibration we're in . So you need to be in control of that so you can control your life.

We need to think about the fact that everything that comes into our lives has been attracted by us, we are literally magnetising it to us. So that includes all that we don't want and all that we want.

Take care of your thoughts and beliefs and feelings. examine them, ask yourself why you think or feel such and such. Keep what works for you and chuck out the rest!

You can do it! Start today.

Law of compensation as spoken by Bob Proctor

The law of compensation is about what you do.

Are you the best that you can be, considering you are connected to the infinite Life Force?

You get compensated for what you do, and what you receive is in direct proportion to

•  the need for what you do
• your ability to do it
• how dispensable you are

When you are giving the best that you've got, when you are improving what you're giving, studying the masters and professionals, when you are serving humanity for the better, then you will get your just rewards.

It is law.

So you can see that this works with the law of Attraction. You need to do the best you can and the Universe will bring you exactly what you want.

Law of Forgiveness as spoken by Bob Proctor

The Law of Forgiveness says that not forgiving is not forgiving yourself.

This is quite simple and specific : when you forgive the other person, you free yourself and open yourself up to love and opportunities and the Abundance of the world that is yours by right. 

When you hold unforgiveness in your heart you are closed to all that potential and the laws of Attraction will not work for you as well as they could.

It is a big mistake to ignore any of these laws - but remember thay all work together in harmony.

Everything in the Universe will rush to be at your side and support you when you are working in harmony with the laws.

law of receiving as argued by Bob Proctor

The Law of receiving is actually the law of giving.

When you give of yourself whether it be time, energy, money, support or information, your actions create a vacuum. This vacuum needs to be filled because Nature hates empty space!

Before you can receive you must be willing to give. When you willingly (not grudgingly) give, then you can gracoisly receive!

We're so wired to get things in our modern day that we sometimes forget to give, and have forgotten the spiritual fulfilment from giving.

Try it and see.

Law of attraction

The Law of Attraction works with the other laws.

When you have a desire to make money but you are still running old stories about lack or undeservability, or when you believe that you only give when you have to, you attract to you like thoughts and results. 

In other words if you feel underserving, you will atract things in your life that are exactly that, in spite of the fact that you might want more money in your life.

If you feel you don't have enough, then you will attract to you circumstances or results which are not enough, even though you might want more money in your life.

If you feel that your heart doesn't have to open up and be willing to give because why should you, you will create that not opened up result in your life, even though you might want to attract more money into your life.

Consciously you want more money, subconsciously you aren't deserving, you feel lacking and unwilling.

The subconscious mind wins because it controls about 96% of your thoughts through all that repitition you've given it over the years.

So the Law of Attraction works, but attracts whatever is in your subconscious!

Think about this and think about it again! Talk to your friends and do something about it!

You can do it!

Change your inside and that produces change on the outside!

This is an excerpt from Bob Proctor's 11 Forgotten Laws:

He's saying that there are no accidents, because everything in the Universe operates according to order and laws.

He's saying our understanding of these laws is incomplete unless we see them all operating as one. They don't stand on their own. he talks about mixing the laws together like the colours in a paintbox.

He talks about being able to send a spaceship to the Moon precisely because of the laws of the Universe (Physics). You don't build your house on the shoreline because you know

 that the tide will come in and wash it away.

When the body acts in accordance with these laws then there will results. It is inevitable!

We've talked about these laws before, so in the next blogs we will put them in perspective.

Please keep reading....

Your love for yourself

Your love for yourself is a gift to the Universe!

When you love yoursel,f all of the potential of you is activated and you shine forthconfidence and abundance into the world!  When you love yourself you are a wonderful role model to the world, you shine out life and love and light and peace. Your brain is relaxed because you know you are always in connection with the magnificence of the Universe, you feel grateful for every little thing and that gratitude grows into a momentum of energy that sustains you over the time you are awake and even while you sleep.

Oh I know this sounds too good to be true. 

The thing is you aren't perfect, so you won't always be glowing at 100%!

But that is all OKay!

The more you shine, the more you shine!

Thankyou for reading this and thankyou for loving yourself more and more each day!

whatever is holding you back is a gift!

You gotta be kidding me! A gift! what's holding you back?

Yes. Think about it.

Once you've worked out ( like talked with your subconscious) and recognised and acknowledged that what you've got is a big case of "lack of self esteem" lurgies, or a thought that says "the world's against me' or "Only some people get rich" or "I can't get better, my mother died young" or whatever...............

then that tells you what to work on to move on. You have to surrender to it ( doesn't mean accepting it) simply acknowledging it. 

So it's agift. Because that's what's holding you back. And you have to see it first so you can then take action on it.

So go talk with your subconscious mind when you're in a really relaxed state and ask it what the problem is.

Once you've got the answer and have got over your freaking out, you can do something about it.

Remember to do this daily.

Good luck, you can do it.

Want any further help? Contact Ruth on inchargelifecaoaching@gmail.com 

Letting go is an everyday experience

letting go of stuff is an ongoing process.

Whenever an old story, an old habit, a failure, a life's lesson, a trauma , a repeat trauma, a relationship that didn't work out ,comes up, let it go.  

You don' need it anymore and it weighs you down. It's like carrying a trailer load of rubbish around with you wherever you go! 

Wouldn't it be better to take it to the tip?

Here the Dalai Lama talk on peace and kindness and farting

http://www.upworthy.com/the-dalai-lama-has-some-very-uplifting-and-wise-words-about-farting?c=upw1

What are your beliefs and what makes them either beneficial to you or hurtful to you?

Your beliefs are nothing more than than thoughts which have been thought a thousand times.

They are thoughts which probably began when you were a child and perhaps have never been challenged and perhaps have never even been in your awareness.

Beliefs are practised thoughts whether wanted or unwanted (John Assaraf).

It's amazing tha,t isn't it? 

Once you realise what they are, you will also become aware that some of them serve you and some don't.

You will know that your beliefs (the unwanted ones) are driving your life, creating the reality that you don't want. 

What your responsibility to yourself is, is to unravel these beliefs of yours, and to accept them. If you want to stay with a belief eg that life is full of surprises, then you go on loving that belief. If you want to have the opposite  eg life is about struggle, then you accept it, surrender to the idea that it is yours, and then lovingly tell your subconscious (where it lives) that it's time for you to have control over your thoughts not the other way around. This thought of struggle you will instruct your subconscious to no longer respond to.

If you love yourself, this is what you'll do.

Do you love yourself enough to do this?

Do you need any support?

Contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com

Love versus hate

http://www.upworthy.com/the-simple-beautiful-gesture-that-can-turn-a-crowd-to-love-instead-of-hate?c=upw1

It's easy to say money is only energy

It's easy to say money is energy, but what does this really mean?

The thing is, all energy is vibration and you get to choose which vibration you go for.

Did you know you've got free will, did you know you choose in every moment what vibration you are?

You choose whether consciously or unconsciously.

There is vibration of fear and lack and poverty and there is plenty of abundance of this in our world.

And also, there is vibration of abundance and love and joy and gratitude and there is plenty of that in our world.

Both vibrations of energy are happening right this very minute.

You choose.

When you choose the vibration of lack and struggle, then obviously it follows that you are choosing havimg money ( and other things) in your life as being hard.

When you choose the vibration of prosperity and love and gratitude, then you are choosing  having money (and other things) with ease.

 

Do you believe in fun?

Do you believe in fun or in working hard with no joy?

I was brought up with the work ethic of work hard.

Slog at something and eventually you'd get good at it and get a pay rise! It was left over from the Victorian work ethic.

Now it's work with fun! This is the key, this is the "fuel for everything" that Tristan and Sabrina Truscott talk about.

Work hard by all means, because manifesting success is about focused action, but it's substance (it's energy) is joy. 

So even if it's mundane, get into the joy of it!

Do you believe in the possibility?

Do you believe in the possibility of success being in hand?

Do you believe it is already in your hand?

If you cannot conceive of success being possible for you, then you are fooling yourself in only thinking

that you will one day achieve success.

There is no point in you doing all your hard work, because it will not change a thing, until you know in the depths of your being that success is yours for the taking (with gratitude).

Right now, wherever you are, whatever your situation is, breathe in the joy and gratitude that comes from having success, and you will surely attract it to you, like a bee to honey. You must, however be prepared to do this consistently for a period of time. The seed must be planted then nurtured and allowed to grow.

It is waiting dormant for you to recognise!

Thanks for reading this blog and may you feel inspired.

Do you believe that the cause of your life's results lies outside of yourself?

The cause of your life's results lies within you, within your conditioning.

First you've been conditioned by family ( however well meaning they are/were) and then you were conditioned by peers at school.Then later by friends and society, including it's cultural, religious, political trends. You are conditioned by fashion, by gender, by your height, weight and age.

In fact everything has a demanding impact on you.

We internalise stuff and spit it out as results in our life until we start realising that we can examine our thoughts held in our subconscious and keep the ones we want and gently coax the others out of being so important and demanding.

Finally we can start to believe and KNOW that our results in our life are because of us!

It's an exciting revelation to know you can do something about your life after all!

It's another dimension of loving yourself!

Pain and fear make you change but

Pain and fear can make you change but joy and hope are a far more graceful way of changing. 

Besides you can have fun on the way.

Check out this idea - you could change your mind by working and working and working with affirmations. OR you could change your mind by making a decision to do so and bringing in the joy that comes with it and the gratitude you feel for the change of mind already being accomplished!

Can you find the courage to express who you are?

Finding the courage to express who you are is best led by joy rather than struggle.

When you beat yourself up because you don't think you're enough or when you push yourself too hard, this doesn't result in producing the best you.

The best you is released when you follow whatever you do with joy.

So even if it's a mundane job, and you do it with joy in your heart, you will relax and the best courageous you grow.

Through joy is courage, and through courage is the way to express yourself to your greatest potential.

Perfect happiness is your goal, in the moment, in the fullness of you.

Apparently 10% of happiness is due to life circumstances; 40% can be changed in a moment by reframing your emotions and connecting to gratitude; and 50% of happiness comes from pursuing happiness, self worth and thinking, reading about and listening to stuff about happiness.
Your happiness will increase and that will produce more and more success.
So just take that courage in your two hands and go for it.
Remember you are worth it.

What do you attune to in your everyday life?

What you allow yourself to attune to is what determines your vibration.

I remember once I was at a crystal healing workshop right in the middle of the city, and the building where the workshop was held was next door to a building site. That particular morning the bulldozers and giant machines with huge balls on the end that smash things down - they were there and in action. So you can imagine the noise. 

Well there were we in the workshop, being quiet and meditative! It did work, focusing and attuning to the crystals and their energies. Not everyone could - some ended up with headaches.

The thing is, You can't change the frequency of vibration of things around you but you can choose what vibrations you attune to or not! 

Check it out.

Contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com

Struggle is not the only way!

Struggle is not the way to go! Unfortunately we've been taught that it is the only way!

You think about this... were you taught either at school or at home to go about getting what you wanted through anything other than struggle? Like you had to work really hard and then if you were lucky you were rewarded at the end of it. Or you learnt to be manipulative and get what you wanted through emotional blackmail or some other means. Both are struggle and both don't really work! think about the numberof times you,ve tried somethingor other and it hasn,t worked. I bet it's because you were struggling as part of the Victorian ethos that many of us seem to have been brought up on.

Well, time to give it up.

Make a decision to have fun while you are in process of manifesting.

Use the energy that you would have formerly spent on struggle, use that , but not the content to manifest what you want.

A delightful way of releasing a problem is the one proposed by Rudy Hunter and called "pulling taffy".

That word taffy is a type of chewy candy and not used in the southern hemisphere. I thought more appropriately of "blowing bubble gum". You know you chew, blow it out and try to get as big a bubble as possible and then you pop it!

Firstly you think of a problem/pain/experience you wish wasn't there!

Secondly you ask yourself how this problem rates on a scale of 0-10 ( 10 being the biggest pain/problem).

Thirdly you focus on it and chew blow and pop the gum ( figuratively or in reality) and do this for several minutes until you stop caring so much.

Lastly you re-rate the problem/pain/experience on th same scale. You may have to do it several times, but it works!

It's brilliant and so simple and so much fun -- the absolute opposite of struggle.

NB If you have a pain ask your body what this part of your body is not wanting you to feel. The answer can sometimes be freaky. 

Slow down and relax - when you're relaxed your brain becomes more active & potentially positive

Shortcut to success - don't get stuck in the muck

This is a shortcut because it's a tip, it's about getting "rid of" what's in the way.

And it's not really "getting rid of" what's in the way, in the sense of wiping it out of existence. It's about understanding that if you want success, you focus on the goal. It also means you avoid all the gunk in the way. All the reasons why you think you shouldn't be successful, why ity might not work, why something bad could happen and on and on worry, worry you IGNORE and walk right over the top of them . remember they are all illusions. When you don't get stuck in the muck, you are focusing all of your energy on to that bulls eye and you can take it out, no problems. No worries mate, you can do it! There is no struggle involved, you are manipulating energy to make it work for you! Work with what you want, not what you don't want!

The usual gunk for most people seems to be;

lack of self worth

lack of trust

and 

no connection to the Universal Life Force or gratitude.

Contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com and thanks for reading this blog!

The importance of being earnest in the pusuit of your life purpose

Why is it so important to find your life purpose?

It's so important because that's where your heart lies, that's where your talent lies, that's where your happiness lies and that's where the present moment lies.

When you are following your life purpose, you are living in the moment.

Remember, when you are living so totally and joyously in the present, you are connected to the Universal life force or Chi or whatever you call it. You are then in your greatest power.

So why not tap into that?

Why not be the best, the fullest you can be?

Why not love yourself that much!

It's scary, isn't it, being as good as you can be? 

And I don't mean being a perfectionist!

Be the best you can be.

It's scary because we have all sorts of things in society that tell us that's being selfish or egotistical or narcissicic. And those voices we,ve internalised unfortunately.

Anyawy, you can just tell those voices to get behind you, to stop, command them forcefully and move in to the new you.

Good luck!

Contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com for further information.

You only have to have 51% of dominant positive thoughts

before things really start to shift, yes you only need 51% of positive thoughts. (Marilyn Jennett)

This is such a relief isn"t it, you don't have to change everything at once? 

In the beginning it feels so hard to even contemplate the thought of change? You've been stuck for so long, you've put up with that negativity for so long it's almost like a friend. Familiar and shameful, but familiar none the less.

The good news is all of this can shift.

Don't be too proud to ask for help and a good place to start is with your guides. Now you might freak out at this idea. When you thought you were alone when you had those thoughts about killing your girlfriend or strangling your father; when you thought you weren't worth it and you could sacrifice your self for the price of their love... sorry I've got news for you, you weren't alone.

No one is alone - we all have guides with us from the moment we are born. They have been there since the beginning. If you don't believe in guides try that little friend you had when you were a kid, try the familiar in the animal, try that small voice you.ve sometimes heard (well at least used to). 

Thanks for thinking about this.

The morning you wake up

and realise you are connected to Source, you feel so peaceful.

You also feel joyous and centred and energised and you appreciate the sun or the rain or even the wind. You have boundless energy because it is continually renewing and you feel your life to be abundant and so so cool. You are grateful beyond words and I'd like to say to you reading my blog, blessings.. and you too can feel this way.

From this connection with spirit or Life or the Infinite all else flows. Know it.

Desire creates lack

When you're in the wanting frame of mind then you are missing something, you are incomplete, you are lacking.

When you are feeling lack, then you struggle, and this, my friend is the opposite of abundance.It will no more draw to you abundance than an old shoe. 

It's weird isn't it? that we thought we had to desire something in order to have it, and we  had to desire something really badly so that that would manifest. But it doesn't work.

The thing is, we have all we need within us now. We don't need to crave something and hey presto it will materialise. No, we have to know that we are grateful for what we have. Arjana Ardagh says " desire is a disease. The antidote is the conscious practice of gratitude. Gratitude flips you into the now. Into a now that is already full, and lays the foundation to greater and greater fullness."

Focus your intentions when manifesting

Focusing is about concentration of energy.

There are no thoughts involved, you must simply be relaxed, be connected to Source and allow no thoughts of " what if I fail? or I'm not good enough " to impinge in that split second of manifestation. Be full of joy, abundnace, excitement, gratitude in the knowing that it is so. That when you concentrate your energy (connected to Source) it acts like a laser to attract exactly what you had in mind.

Almost everything we do and say is the product of the subconscious

Can you believe that almost everything we do and say comes from our memory and comes from our subconscious?

We almost never respond from a clean slate to things that happen in our lives. We respond through the filter of what's happened before, of what we've ever read or seen before. In other words, our responses to the world are steeped in what was, they're not pure responses. They are distorted. And it's distortions are often linked to emotions which give more weight.

Unless of course you decide to be free of all that. You need to change emotional memory into simply facts,. In other words, you need to release the feelings that have got stuck.

To do this, be connected to Source, make a decision to let go and do some action that you've already told yourself means "letting go". This could be a ritual of some sort, a burning, a pulling the taffy apart, a ripping apart , a whateve,r but some action that signifies letting go.  

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Judgements of others are really about yourself

When you make a judgement of another person you are really judging yourself, which as you know is not very loving.

You can simply use the words "just like me" to add to any comment you make about another, whether it is for good or bad.

For example, you may overhear someone discussing their mother-in-law in derogatory ways, and you can say "wow she's so critical, just like me.' Or you might be part of a conversation where someone is called really stupid,.... just like me. Or maybe it's someone who's really smart, just like me, or really raging mad, just like me.

In this way, you can work out the statements you make where you need to make some changes to your belief systems.

Just note them, have a laugh, no judgments and move on to more loving ways of seeing yourself and others.

Thanks to Arjana Ardagh in The Last Laugh for his brilliant comments, just like mine.

Every one of us has a deep rooted fear

We all have a deep rooted fear that holds us back.

This is a quote from Arjan Ardagh's The Last Laugh.

"Every human being is running away from something they don't want to feel.If you're running away from" I'm weak" , you can go to the gym all you like and build pecs so big you'll .... but none of it makes any difference until you face the dark caves in your own mind. If you avoid your own fears you fill your life with endless distraction."

Check out your own fears and ask yourself questions about them and answer honestly. Look in the mirror and check your truthfulness. Don't be horrified with the answers, simply look at them without judgement. Then make a decsion that that was you in the past. Reaffirm your new beliefs.

Good luck.

The importance of loving self

The importance of loving yourself cannot be underestimated.

When you love yourself you make all sorts of choices to improve who you are and what you do in your life, and what you give back to the world. When you love yourself you are more closely connected to the divine source within, or to that goodness or whatever you want to call it, within. You are more likely to make choices for the good of yourself and others. When you love yourself, you attract others who love.

When you don't love yourself, you attract people who are also lacking and in some way controlling.

It is this lack, or fear or inadequacy that drives you.

You cannot be in charge of your life with this option.

Remember, you have a choice, to love yourself or not, to live well or to just survive, to give or not to give at all.

If you need help with this then contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com

You don't have to feel stuck in the mud

You don't have to feel stuck in the mud or even be stuck in the mud.

There is always someone to help. The thing is, if you were stuck in the mud you know what to do... you wriggle a bit, change direction slightly and off you go again.

I know this is speaking in metaphors, but life's all about that.

The thing is, it's your choice to either stay or to go.. with whatever is happening in your life.

It's time for you to see that your life is in your hands. However old, or run down you've become, however sick or disabled you may be, you still have choices. That is the great thing about humans.. you have a choice. You are not driven by your instincts, well at least you don't have to be.

Even if you've made the choice to change or get out of there lots of times in the past and not had the strength to carry them through, even though you've given yourself and others a hard time, it's all okay. It's not too late.

It's perfect timing , because it's now!

And remember the power is in the present.

It's all okay, you will be okay.

Follow your inner knowledge which is connected to the Source of all energy on the Planet.

If you prefer, contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com

You were born pure goodness

You were born pure goodness but the second you were born you started learning

and that's when you started learning negativity and positivity. That's when you started learning that your world was about love and joy and goodness or hate and revenge. It could have been a mixture of love and manipulation or hate but extreme kindness. It could have been any circumstance under the sun.

The thing is, you learnt whatever attitudes you learnt. 

You did not have them at birth.

So as you reach a stage in your life where you want to be successful you reailse that in order to have success, you have to start thinking and breathing love and joy and happiness. 

In fact you have to reclaim your birthright.

You can do that now, even years and years after your birth, even after all those things that have happened to you, you can reclaim love.

Take it into your heart and make a choice about living it. 

You have the power

You have the power to be who you want to be, to choose peace rather than war, to choose to control your own mind rather than have maind chatter control you.

Ok so do you go about that?

You make choices, every moment of every day. Remember it's in the moment, in the present, where the power lies.

If you want results in your life and the greater world, take control of your life. Put yourself in charge.

Contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com if you'd rather ask for help.

You can choose

You can choose to breathe automatically or consciously

Well how do we reckon that? and after all, why would we bother choosing to make the effort to breathe consciously when our bodies are doing it for us?

Think about this. You decide whether to breathe deeply or not; you decide whether to breathe slowly or not; you decide to breathe quietly or not. Oh OK maybe not when you've got a cold.....

But basically, you do choose.

Imagine or think about the idea that you could choose to breathe in abundance and love OR you could choose to breathe in self recrimination and judgements. Which would you choose?

Well, choose then.

Rabia Hayek reckons we all take between twelve and 25,000 breaths a day.

Imagine if you chose to breathe positively for even 100 breaths. The average healthy adult breathing rate is somewhere between twelve and twenty breaths a minute. So if you breathed positively for 20 minutes you would have breathed positively 100 breaths or more.

That's pretty good.

If you breathe positively ( with or without affirmations) every morning for every day you wake up, you will have accumulated a lot of positivity.

One of the best things about doing this, is, it FEELS SO GOOD!

You feel connected, and so you are.

You are in the manifesting business!

Choose Joy of the Process Itself

When you choose joy for itself, all sorts of positive things happen.

You learn about living in the moment, about appreciating the little simple things in life, you don't bother about stressing anymore. 

As joy becomes your focus, then worries and frustrations slip away.

Your mind becomes attractive to joyful moments, thoughts, beliefs.. and more and more of them.

When I'm focused on joy, I'm watching and observing how I'm thinking.

I'm learning to love myself more and be open to more love around me. 

When I focus on joy, I'm choosing not to abandon myself, I'm choosing to listen to my intuition and inner guidance.

When I focus on Joy, I don't have time, interest or energy for negativity.

So go for it, and enjoy!  

When you don't have the intention of loving yourself

You have made a choice of not loving yourself.

It's hard to believe isn't it? By not making loving yourself  a goal, is, in itself, a choice. 

If you do love yourself a bit, then you can learn to love yourself more and fully.

If you don't do this, then you will never be able to reach your highest good or highest potential as everything you do is based upon resistance of the life force.

Think about this for a second. If you don't love yourself, then your happiness is attached to you acquiring or controlling something or someone.

And you cut yourself ( and them off from the connection with the Universal Life force or Quantum Energy or God or whatever you want to call it.)

When you are disconnected from Source and yourself, then you cannot manifest in the way that you truly desire.

So think about what's involved in loving yourself?

First  it's a committment.

Second it's respecting your physicality. For example, if your body is tired, then rest it.

Third it's acting on your talents.

Fourth it's saying what you need to say even when your best friend or partner says the opposite.

It's patting yourself on the back when you've done well.

And more..

But it's the little thing that makes us all sing!

Thanks for reading this blog.

Contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com.

Why is it important to have the intention of loving yourself?

The importance of loving yourself cannot be underestimated.

When you make the intention to love yourself, you are actually making the choice to love yourself rather than hate yourself.!! 

That sounds incredible, doesn't it?

But it's actually true.

Every little thing I do or say or feel in a day is a huge part of loving myself. If I choose to get up in the mornings in a bad mood and stay that way for the day, then I am hating myself. I bring misery to myself and all those around me.

If on the other hand I wake up grumpy but immediately tell myself I love and accept myself even though I'm grumpy, my whole mood will change, and hence so will my experiences that day for myself and anyone else I come in contact with.

So having the intention of loving self is really important as you see, on a day to day and indeed moment to moment basis. When you do this, and carry through corrective positive measures then you can easily see that your vibrational frequencies of your energy will increase.

The more they increase, the more likely success will be achieved.

Try it out now and let me know how it goes. 

Start yourself a chart of incereasing self love and see how better your results of everything will be!

Wow! It works!

Contact Ruth at inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com

Why your connection to the Universe is critical to achieving your goals

In order to achieve your goals you must make a decision to love yourself and your connection to the Universe.

Some people call this God, others, Universal Light or Intelligence. Whatever yo call it isn't significant but your connection to it is.

Every day we already mentioned that it's a good idea to count your blessings. It's also a good idea to make a decision to love yourself, so that things you do during the day are about love and not fear.

Choose to do things to bring happiness and a sense of peace to yourself and others. 

Remember, you can't really love another if you don't love yourself in the first place.

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What is gratitude? What's that?

What is gratitude?

It is a feeling of thankfulness and appreciation.

When you wake up in the morning and you think things aren't going very well for you, or you want things to have hurried up, just take a breath and count your blessings.

Remember all the good things you have in life. For a start your parents gave you life, your friends give you support, feedback, entertainment, education, your family gives you identity and memories, your job gives you money and fulfilment and so on.

And you're thinking , "O yeah, You know nothing man! I got nothing or nobody." 

Well, my friend, what about your life, your legs that work, your brain, your smile..., the roof over your head..." what about the sun on your face and the clean water you drink?

Look deeply, there is always something to be thankful for, something to appreciate and remember, there is always someone way worse off than you.

Thankyou for reading this, and may your heart open to posiibilities that we call life.

I want you to think about the following statement:

Even though I think I don't have enough I appreciate and love myself.

Does this make your stomach all cramp up?

Does it make you see red?

Does it make you think it's all crap?

How about being honest with yourself and asking yourself if you really do love who you are, warts and all???

Well? Write me on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com 

Without failure, there is no success

My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.
Abraham Lincoln 

 

Great, You, Your

Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure... than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat.
Theodore Roosevelt 

 

Because, Live, Things

I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying.
Michael Jordan 

 

Something, Trying, Everyone

Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not: nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not: the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.
Calvin Coolidge 

 

Education, Men, Alone

Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement.
C. S. Lewis 

Failures

Do not fear mistakes. You will know failure. Continue to reach out.
Benjamin Franklin 

Fear, You, Will

Ambition is the last refuge of the failure.
Oscar Wilde 

Last, Refuge

It's fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.
Bill Gates 

Success, More, Important

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything - all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.
Steve Jobs 

Life, Death, Fear

I've come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now enjoy.
Tony Robbins 

 

Believe, New, Past

Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed on an equal or greater benefit.
Napoleon Hill 

Every, Adversity, Heartache

Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Thomas A. Edison 

Life, Success, Up

A man can fail many times, but he isn't a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.
John Burroughs 

Man, Many, Else

Don't be afraid to fail. Don't waste energy trying to cover up failure. Learn from your failures and go on to the next challenge. It's OK to fail. If you're not failing, you're not growing.
H. Stanley Judd 

You, Your, Up

If you learn from defeat, you haven't really lost.
Zig Ziglar 

You, Really, Lost

We have forty million reasons for failure, but not a single excuse.
Rudyard Kipling 

Single, Million, Reasons

Before success comes in any man's life, he's sure to meet with much temporary defeat and, perhaps some failures. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and the most logical thing to do is to quit. That's exactly what the majority of men do.
Napoleon Hill 

 

Life, Success, Men

Success is the result of perfection, hard work, learning from failure, loyalty, and persistence.
Colin Powell 

Success, Work, Learning

Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.
John Wooden 

 

Change, Might, Fatal

One of the common failings among honorable people is a failure to appreciate how thoroughly dishonorable some other people can be, and how dangerous it is to trust them.
Thomas Sowell 

 

Trust, Them, Some

Remember that failure is an event, not a person.
Zig Ziglar 

 

Person, Remember, Event

You are capable of more than you know. Choose a goal that seems right for you and strive to be the best, however hard the path. Aim high. Behave honorably. Prepare to be alone at times, and to endure failure. Persist! The world needs all you can give.
E. O. Wilson 

 

Best, Alone, You

Failure is not a single, cataclysmic event. You don't fail overnight. Instead, failure is a few errors in judgement, repeated every day.
Jim Rohn 

 

Day, You, Every

When I was young, I observed that nine out of ten things I did were failures. So I did ten times more work.
George Bernard Shaw 

Work, More, Out

You cannot climb the ladder of success dressed in the costume of failure.
Zig Ziglar 

 

Success, You, Cannot

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