Most of us think that failure is at one end and success at exactly the opposite end, on a long thin tightrope. But no, I don't believe it necessarily is. Let's look at this model or view of success. You start at failure and end up at success? No? You start at step 1 and you become successful at that, then you move on to step 2 and become successful at that, and move on until you achieve where you actually wanted to go. So your ability to be successful is to safely negotiate each stage/step with success. What about in between , where maybe you falter a little, and it takes you two steps forward and one back before you get to the next stepping stone? Is this called failure, or simply part of the path toward success?
Sometimes there a thousand steps in between step 1 and the goal, so perhaps it is important to consider that each step is exactly that - a way forward. But a way forward sometimes has obstacles and you have to go around or sometimes you miss your footing and have to do it again. Sometimes you even have to take a detour. But this is still success, and when we label it failure it can frighten the hell out of us. We label it failure and we become failures in our mind's eye.
So let's remember to label our successes and failures correctly.
If you view success/failure as a never-ending cycle track of moving forward, moving back, it's a circuit and the view you have of yourself riding the bike is never one of failure... it is simply of moving onward. You can't really ride a bicycle backwards. Which reminds me, I saw The Lone Ranger last night and saw the heroine riding backwards. But it was the ranger who was controlling the ride. I noticed also, that she didn't stay for very long in the saddle, sitting backwards. It's just not very possible.
And so it is with success - you can't really go backwards. you are going forwards and you are going over the bumps which we call failures. Isn't that neat?
Let me know if you need some help with this. Contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com for immediate support.
Sometimes there a thousand steps in between step 1 and the goal, so perhaps it is important to consider that each step is exactly that - a way forward. But a way forward sometimes has obstacles and you have to go around or sometimes you miss your footing and have to do it again. Sometimes you even have to take a detour. But this is still success, and when we label it failure it can frighten the hell out of us. We label it failure and we become failures in our mind's eye.
So let's remember to label our successes and failures correctly.
If you view success/failure as a never-ending cycle track of moving forward, moving back, it's a circuit and the view you have of yourself riding the bike is never one of failure... it is simply of moving onward. You can't really ride a bicycle backwards. Which reminds me, I saw The Lone Ranger last night and saw the heroine riding backwards. But it was the ranger who was controlling the ride. I noticed also, that she didn't stay for very long in the saddle, sitting backwards. It's just not very possible.
And so it is with success - you can't really go backwards. you are going forwards and you are going over the bumps which we call failures. Isn't that neat?
Let me know if you need some help with this. Contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com for immediate support.
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