Why is it so hard to escape this awful stuff?
They go together, the three of them . If you feel despair long enough, it becomes depression, and taking drugs is one way of getting a little relief from this cycle. Or alcohol.
Despair is when you feel totally hopeless and powerless either because of something that's happened in the near present, like loss of a job, grief over a partner's death/rejection. It could also be a long existing feeling which has become a fulltime presence, because of something that happened years and years ago when you were a kid and you've never quite been able to get over it. You may have even thought you were responsible.
But now you feel despair because it punishes you and that makes you feel good somehow. By feeling despair, you don't have to take responsibility for the present, you can just live in the depths of despair and not care. You can punish others who love you with it too, can't you?
Depression is the accumulation of grief and anger over something that you cannot let go of, over something that is totally controlling your mind, and has been for years.
How can you get over it?
First you need to ask yourself "How is despair serving you? "
I know you think this is an idiot question to ask, but if you want to get over something that's strong, you have to be stronger.
So do you want to be stronger than your despair?
If the answer is yes, then
What IS the answer to "What is despair/depression giving you?"
If you can answer that, then you've started the process of eliminating it from your life.
Congratulations!
When you have that answer, contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com and she will help you through the rest.
First session free.
They go together, the three of them . If you feel despair long enough, it becomes depression, and taking drugs is one way of getting a little relief from this cycle. Or alcohol.
Despair is when you feel totally hopeless and powerless either because of something that's happened in the near present, like loss of a job, grief over a partner's death/rejection. It could also be a long existing feeling which has become a fulltime presence, because of something that happened years and years ago when you were a kid and you've never quite been able to get over it. You may have even thought you were responsible.
But now you feel despair because it punishes you and that makes you feel good somehow. By feeling despair, you don't have to take responsibility for the present, you can just live in the depths of despair and not care. You can punish others who love you with it too, can't you?
Depression is the accumulation of grief and anger over something that you cannot let go of, over something that is totally controlling your mind, and has been for years.
How can you get over it?
First you need to ask yourself "How is despair serving you? "
I know you think this is an idiot question to ask, but if you want to get over something that's strong, you have to be stronger.
So do you want to be stronger than your despair?
If the answer is yes, then
What IS the answer to "What is despair/depression giving you?"
If you can answer that, then you've started the process of eliminating it from your life.
Congratulations!
When you have that answer, contact Ruth on inchargelifecoaching@gmail.com and she will help you through the rest.
First session free.
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